Thursday, September 18, 2014

Peppers stuffed w/ Mashed Potatoes & Tomatoes

Thursdays Treat!!!

Talk about flying by the seat of your pants.
I was so hungry on Monday when I left work but I knew I had to workout first before I ate dinner. While I was still in my office I started to think about what I could possibly make that would be under 45 minutes tops. I wanted to go for my walk after dinner as well and I didn't want major hassle in the kitchen.
I remembered I had bought some large peppers over the weekend while visiting my grandma in Brooklyn. I didn't want to stuff them with meat so I chose potatoes. I had also picked up 2 small plastic containers of red potatoes. I always find those boil faster than regular potatoes.

When I walked in my door I changed to my workout clothes and headed to the kitchen.

Ingredients:
- 2 large Peppers
- dozen small red Potatoes
- 2 small tomatoes
- mayonnaise
- salt

I boiled the potatoes for about 20 minutes added pinch of salt to the water.
I cut the tops off the peppers and diced the tomatoes into small but biteable pieces.
Around 10 minutes in on the potatoes I put the peppers in my toaster oven for 20 minutes.

I checked on the peppers after 10 minutes because I wanted them toasty enough to be soft but still hold their shape and have a crunch.
Once my potatoes were soft enough to mash, 20 minutes worked great, I removed from stovetop dumped the water and added 3 tablespoons of mayo. I love mayo so 3 for me was actually too little but I compromised for my Lil Mama. I mashed up the potatoes making sure the mayo was well blended in then I added the pieces of tomatoes and set aside.
I took the peppers out the toaster oven, let cool for a few seconds then grabbed with a paper towel and with a spoon began to stuff away.

This whole process took me 35 minutes start to serve. I got my workout in as it cooked and when I was done shortly after dinner was done as well. I must say delish!!! I served it for myself with some lettuce and splash of balsamic vinaigrette.


My daughter ate afterwards and gave me 2 thumbs up. We both agreed next round we would try adding some cheese and cranberries in place of tomatoes or avocado and cranberries. Great thing about cooking is you can think outside the box and create just about anything.
I left her enjoying my treat and went for my long walk, ah what a great evening!

Always stress free xo.

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

The Fine lines of Corporal Punishment

Yes I am going to touch on this subject, why; because I consider myself to have parented in a fare manner and I wanted to express my observations.
This will not be about judgment but instead on shining light on topics that require more discussions and understanding and better options for resolutions.

Corporal Punishment is defined as a form of physical punishment that involves the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offense, or for the purpose of disciplining or reforming a wrongdoer, or to deter attitudes or behavior deemed unacceptable. The term usually refers to methodically striking the offender with the open hand or with an implement, whether in judicial, domestic, or educational settings. (Wikipedia)

Some people will never understand or respect when someone says it's a cultural thing and how can we expect them too if it is not part of their culture or household experience.
I mean how can we understand taking a branch or wire or hanger or whatever and hitting a child? 
But if that is the case how can we understand the cutting off of someones hand back in the day when they stole? Or the saying an Eye for an Eye?

I think we can all agree that hitting as a big picture is a poor choice. The problem now is how do we talk about this, how do we teach, how do we moving forward know better?

Disciplining children is not a one size fits all and it does vary in homes and in cultures. 
It is very disrespectful and ignorant to believe or state otherwise.

I also took it upon myself to Google the phrase "Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child" and came up with some interesting views. I point this out because for those in our society who believe in following the Bible to a T there are some conflicting views on that in it self. I am sure the Internet is loaded with much more than these 2 links I am going to share.

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So I have pointed out Culture, Religion and Life Styles...3 things again one size does not fit all.

In some homes or even cultures the concept of  Timeout is a joke. Yes I said it. I am not speaking for example for all Spanish or Latin people but I am speaking for a few.
The concept of having a small child sit still for a few minutes so that he or she grasps what wrong was done and expect them not to do it again is silly.
Now isn't that being disrespectful? Aren't I undermining the use of someone else's belief system?
I never used Timeout, to me it is a joke. I use and have used the technique of taking things away. I am not going to sit there or monitor you while your suppose to be learning something. I have things to do. That to me is a waste of time.

The same thing goes for talking back or back talk as some refer to it as. In most Spanish or Latin households you will never have that. I am speaking about my culture. I am sharing my truths.
When I was about  6 or 7 years old my Aunt bought some color pencils and other school supplies to send to some family back in the Dominican Republic. She packed them away and I went into the bag and took the color pencils. I was angry that she hadn't bought me my own set knowing I loved to color so much. In my mind she was never going to notice or see until she was away and by then she would or could think she misplaced them. Well that evening she went to look for something else and questioned me on the pencils I said I didn't know. My mother came in pulled me by my ear and forced me to tell the truth and hand them over.
Then to top that off she poured some rice in a corner and had me kneel on it in my underwear with my hands on my head. I was in that corner for about 1/2 an hour but in my mind I think it was more.
Was that Corporal Punishment? It may have been but I never stole anything else again after that.

When I was in my early teens I was on the phone and my mother made a gesture with her hands for me to get off. It was the scissor motion which means"corta ya" or "cut it". I guess I was feeling myself and turned my back on her and sucked my teeth. Next thing I knew there was a slipper across my mouth. I didn't need to hang up after that, she did it for me. I never sucked my teeth to my mother or to anyone ever again, same goes for turning my back.

Where I come from parents give you one look and one look only. They ask you once and only once. They don't negotiate when it's time to leave a party or whether or not they will buy a toy or when it's time to go to sleep. In other homes they will talk to the child till they are blue in the face. Differences.

I survived those incidents. I don't consider them abuse I consider that was what my mother knew at the time. She didn't behave that way with my other sisters and I didn't behave that way with my own daughter when I had her. I am aware that there are cases where certain methods did leave life long scars.

It's a combination of things lack of knowledge, repetition and condition. But to bring down harsh judgment instead of starting conversations and providing better tools serves no purpose.

Older generations all used some sort of hitting method. Wait till your father gets home is a great example. Some dads got the belt and those who knew better decided to take things away. It's all about education.

I don't have a problem with spanking I do have a problem with beating. If we are aware of the difference and of the options in between we can make better choices.
In the 19 years I have been a mother I spanked my daughter about 3 times as a child and slapped her once.
I regretted slapping her for 2 reasons, one it hurt my hand and two it left a brief mark in her face. When I saw that I felt terrible that I had disrespected her face and that I handled the situation poorly. She was about 8 years old and I have never used any of those above mentioned methods since that
day. After that any time she required what would be considered punishment I took something she loved away and because she didn't like that she tried her best to stay on the straight and narrow.

This young father who is in the news now is just one of many fathers who chose the extreme way to discipline. Who grew up with certain values and perhaps didn't adjust them to better suit the needs of parenting their children today. They still may not know better to do better. You don't correct their ways or especially his way by just taking him out of a game or games. You correct the behavior by education by teaching him or them better ways to discipline than taking a switch or belt or whatever else that could cause severe damage to another human being.
This is on the news because he is a Football player but this happens every day in many
neighborhoods in many towns in a variety of cultures and races and homes.

So is it just cultural, is it just race, is it just religion, is it just men or is it just women?
I say it's a blend of all of the above and the sooner we address it, the sooner we acknowledge it, the sooner solutions could be bought to the table.

We live in a society that jumps on the band wagon for a brief moment and when it is no longer a "hot topic"we move on to the next hot thing. But what we fail to understand and why we continue to repeat these mistakes is because issues of poor behavior just don't go away because the camera is off.
Every day a child is hurt, a woman is beaten, the color of your skin causes you to be abused, your sexual preference brings upon bullying the list is endless.

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Let's stop being a society of watchers and become doers. Teachers, Community Leaders, Church members, Volunteers lets join together and talk. Lets start programs and after school activities that address the different types of abuse and how to better deal with it. Parents, lets sit and talk with our kids more and lets set proper guidelines in our homes for what is and is not acceptable and lets come up with productive ways to discipline poor behavior...in everyone.

What are your thoughts? Did you grow up with spankings being the norm or did your parents use Time out? Start a conversation.

Always stress free xo

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

I would like to Spread the Word

I love to share great things.
Easy tips, tricks, treats etc...
If I can cut down the time on anything I need to do and use the rest on leisure you won me over.
Time for me is precious and valuable. I love to invest it doing things I love and bring me joy and peace, not drama, stress or a frown.

We are up to #8 on our September Sapphire Even Day Blog Challenge with Kimberly from beingawordsmith.com

Today' theme is...Pay it Forward

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I love and follow so many blogs that picking only a handful to me is a bit trying.
Kimberly asked that I shout out 3/4 bloggers whose posts I enjoy, to share their info and tell you why I enjoy them.

After taking a hard look at my reading list I narrowed it down to these ladies in no particular order:

1- Antionette over @dedivahdeals she has an amazing shoe collection which I tell her I am going to raid all the time. She is at the age where many women begin to feel lost, have no sense of fun or adventure but my girl is the total opposite! She is full of spice and isn't afraid to show it or share it!!
Please go visit her and take a look for yourself.
2- Mai's mom over @thepinterestedparent that is how I address her because I mean, I am just crazy about her daughter Mai and all her adorable antics. I love the crafty shares and recipes and how easy they are to make. Go enjoy an afternoon with Mai, she is a ham!
3- Jenn over @eatcakefordinner I mean look at the name of her blog.That got me right there then I started getting her emails and I was hooked. I have a folder of must tries alone with all her yummy shares. If you have a sweet tooth go visit her and I promise she will have something you will love.
4- Kesha over @uncommonchick is my yes yes yes moments. Her philosophies are very uplifting. Who wants to be part of a crowd when you can be unique in your own right? That is exactly what I believe and want to share and embrace. To be happy in our own skin, to see beauty in our differences and to be open to all of life's wonder. Visit her and see that there is beauty in options and acceptance in self.

There are so many other mom's and dad's I follow I can really be here all day. But they know I value their contributions because I am mindful to leave a comment whenever I visit them.

Pay it forward is a great concept. When you know better you do better and you should share that knowledge so that others can grow as well.
Thanks Kimberly.

Always stress free xo

Monday, September 15, 2014

Guest Host week #3 Turn it Up Tuesday's 1st Anniversary!!!

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Happy 1st to Turn it Up Tuesday!!! Week 3 of my Guest Host duties and having such a continuous blast. I am so honored to be associated with such a positive project and amazing ladies. Please come join the fun and again continue to celebrate with me on my Birth Month!!!
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We are celebrating Turn It Up Tuesday's birthday too! And we are so happy to have you here with us to celebrate...and connect...and grow!
This week we'd love to see your anniversary, birthday, milestone, party, etc. posts! We want to have a great time reading all of your celebratory posts in celebration of Turn It Up Tuesday!
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Thanks so much for joining us last week while we celebrated Self-Improvement month with some great posts to help ourselves and help others! We had some amazing posts to read!
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Mila chose How to Make Fall Scented Paint from My Big Fat Happy Life. "This idea is a stroke of genius and a fun thing to do with kids! Just imagine all the fall scented masterpieces your kids will create!"
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Rachel chose Life Lessons of a Nurse from Crazily Normal. "I chose this post because my mom is a nurse and I know how they often observe and learn through the biggest examples of life's frustrations, sorrows, and joys. Her post is inspirational and reflective."
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Tara chose Buffalo Hummus Dip from 3 Little Greenwoods. "Love hummus and especially love Franks Buffalo Wing Sauce, so when I saw this recipe it caught my eye! Can't wait to try it! Also with Football in full swing, I think this would be the perfect dip to make for a football or tailgate party!"
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Jessica chose 5 Simple Tips for Squeezing Writing Into Your Everyday Life from Georgia Lee - Writing to the Sound of Legos Clacking. "I truly needed Georgie's post! I am suffering from writer's block due to an upcoming dissertation I need to write. Quite frankly, I am brain-dead! Ick!!! I love her suggestion, especially #1 - write something everyday. Honestly, this is good practice tha I need to enforce on myself with the dissertation writing AND to keep up with blogging. Thanks, again! 15 minutes a day of writing, here I come!!"
Jillian chose this post. "I chose this post because I am looking for ways to get more writing into my day. I just never seem to have time - but this post reminds me it isn't about finding extended time, but a few minutes here and there would be just fine."
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Meghan chose Mommy Moments, I Must Confess from Winks and Eyerolls. "I really loved reading this post. Even though it was only 10 months ago that my little girl was the same age as the poster, it feels like so long ago. I was able to relive every moment with her...and it made me want another little one!"
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Cathy chose Saving Memories from Life with Peanut. "Megan shares an amazing idea to help you capture and remember all of the little things that your kids do that as time passes you forget about. My kids are in elementary school and Megan's idea is the perfect way for me to someday reveal to them the moments of their childhood! I am starting tomorrow! :-) Check out Megan's blog to see exactly how she is saving memories!"
Tenns also chose this post. "I love this idea! This is such a creative way to keep track of memories. I'm not great at documenting things, because it's so hard to keep up with how fast littles grow. I'll definitely keep this idea in mind as I document memories and keep track of things with my son."
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April chose Great Learning Games for Preschoolers from Life's Little Projects. "My two year old, Bee, has already conquered letters, numbers, colors and shapes, yet then I got stuck on what to teach her next. As this school year starts, I wanted to give her a lesson plan too, but what to do next? Well, Amie Jo had several answers to my problem to keep her moving forward. I'm starting to get excited about this new year."
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Mari chose Chewy White Chocolate Chip Cranberry Cookies from Born to Bake Forever. "I chose Megan's cookies because it married all I love. Chewy, white chocolate chip and cranberries. The moment I saw the picture I fell in love and went to the market this weekend to pickup the supplies to make it for my Birth Day so thanks Megan for my b'day treat :)"
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Becky chose A Super Easy Snack: Tortilla Rollups from The Most -- of Every Moment. "I love this because it's easy and tasty. I often forget about making these!"
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Stacey chose Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough filled Chocolate Sandwich Cookies from Bakewell Junction. "Oh these look wonderful! The cookies sound like they are delectibly chocolatey and the filling sounds absolutley amazing! Thank you so much for sharing and I can't wait to make these! Maybe a Halloween treat with the kids!"
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Kelly chose Minecraft for Moms – What You Need to Know from Sunshine & Hurricanes. "My kids are crazy for Minecraft and sometimes I have no idea what they are talking about."
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Chelsea chose Homemade "Uncrustables" from Making More... "I loveeee uncrustables! It's brings out the little kid in me, so to see a way to make them at home (cheaper, healthier, AND I can make my own variations) it was like a match made in heaven!"
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Natasha chose How to get your 4 year old to take a nap from Just a Touch of Crazy. "I love this post! Although my son is 3, it takes a wish and a prayer to get him to take a nap. He sleeps so easily at school, but when's he home - it's a whole different story. Leilani's list is a perfect depiction of what I have to do for naptime and for bedtime. It's a wonder I'm still sane!"
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