Wednesday, September 28, 2016

When Good Intentions are Not so Good

Hey dolls seems like we haven't chatted in a long time let me bring you up to date.
First Mommywood turned 3 in August and I don't know where the time has gone. I really am grateful to have a place to share my Life Experiences and perhaps help one person see there is another way. Second I just had a Birth Day the lovely 45 came around and I am soooooo loving it! Nothing like being in a good place in your life where all you are is grateful and see so many possibilities. Living mindfully will help you achieve that and just plain ole living, making mistakes and getting right back up.

Which brings me to the only damper I had on my Birth Day month. A meeting with a friend that turned into a sour event but I walked away with huge clarity none the less.
I don't want to get into a play by play and I don't want to sit in that experience for too long but I will share some highlights said friend feels the following...

  • My priorities are wrong
  • I am not enough of a Go Getter
  • I am basically settling in Life
  • I am filled with excuses
  • I'll be in the same spot 5 years from now at rate I am going
  • I am not aiming high enough
  • I am not doing everything possible to be a Success

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Now to be fair I will say I am dealing with an extremely driven man. One I have known since we were 19 years old. One that I share things in my life with as most friends do. One who has overcome adversity and risen to the occasion and with that I say good for YOU.

Agreed that there are things I set out to do in my life that I have fallen short on. Agreed that there are just certain sacrifices I am just not willing to make and Agreed that we do have some things in common when it comes to how we grew up but we have had different life experiences and you can't judge people for those experiences. You can't paint with one broad brush how you will handle the things that come your way. Without getting into too many details I felt extremely judged.

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How as my friend can you view where I stand today in life as a total failure? Sure you sprinkled in a few props and btw thanks but how as my friend knowing my history would you choose to speak in a less than emphatic form? Opinion and Advice and Suggestions are awesome but not at the expense of belittling the choices of others. How I feel and felt about our exchange is not his responsibility. Only we can control our emotions but it is important to express them as best we can in a respectful manner so you can get your point across. Perhaps the intent was to inspire by sharing his Life Experiences. Perhaps the intent was to encourage in his own way. I ended our conversation by saying "because I love you I will pay very close attention to all you have said." And I did and I have and this is what I came up with.

My measure of success is determined by me. My measure of happiness is determined by me. My measure of worth is determined by me.

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  • I learned that some people only see you as a success if they can see tangible evidence.
  • I learned that for some picking your battles is not trying hard enough 
  • I learned that everyone defines success by their own measure.
  • I learned that I don't have to prove my success to anyone 
I was saddened I am saddened that a friend would view me as "less than" a success and perhaps to some it really isn't a big deal after all we were just two friends talking and he was just commenting on things we had shared in the past which is fine I get it I got it. But regardless of what your friend shares with you present or past kindness should never be spared. Mindfulness should never be an option it should always be a given.

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It takes courage, self love and respect to stand in your truth to shine in your own bright light. So if you find yourself surrounded by those who feel you haven't done enough, achieved enough, explored enough even sacrificed enough don't waiver in the knowledge that you have done enough as long as you are proud of that person who is looking back at you in the mirror. Share your thoughts and experience,

Always stress free xo,

Monday, September 26, 2016

End of September Turn It Up Tuesday

As my Birth Day month comes to a close I want to welcome you all to our last party for the month of September. Hope you have had as much fun as we have with all the amazing shares. But let's not get to comfy just yet...drop in and share your end of the month greatness. The fun starts NOW!

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Sarah chose 10 Self Care Tips for Parents from our very own Kelly from Making More. "I really struggle with self care. I try to take care of everyone else first - my kids, my husband, my family & job. I know that I'm not alone in needing these tips, especially as we head into the holiday season."


Sarah chose Caramel Apple Pop Martini from Simply {Darr}ling. "How yummy does this sound?? I love all things Fall, and I think that I'll need some adult time with one of these martinis and some friends...soon!"


Mari chose 3 Simple Steps to Finding Your Passion & Live A Life You Love from Everything's Coming Up Rosie. "Rosie's tips are things I already use in my mindful living and have worked so I really was happy to see it shared with us."


Mari chose Discrimination, an Art Studio & Why Fancy Clothes Won't Save Us from Rich Faith Rising. "Though we are in trying times and not everyone wants to speak about it I believe any time we can start a conversation when these matters come up is a great thing thanks Jen for the share."


Kimberly chose When the Kiddies Are Away... from our very own Tiffany from TheMrsTee. "So excited for Tiffany's new daytime freedom. Impressed at how many blogging accomplishments she has had with a house full of kids. Now that they are all in school, she is going to be even more of a force. Enjoy yourself, girl!"


Kimberly chose Tooth Fairy? Blame the early Europeans for this one... from Four Princesses and The Cheese. "I never get tired of hearing failed tooth fairy stories! All parents go through it, but there's always a hilarious tale to go with it. And Kristin's hysterical post proves that."


Bev chose Cheesecake Chocolate Chip Cookie Bars from Marilyns Treats. "What could be better than cheesecake and chocolate chip cookies? A bar made with all of these great ingredients. Heavenly!"


Bev chose Beginners Guide to Protein Powder from That Fit Fam. "This is such an informative post about choosing the right protein powder. I like using protein and buying the right one is important."


Tiffany chose 21 Ways To Style Your Skinny Jeans from Five Foot Nothing Shopping. "Okay so I may not be Five Foot Nothing but I’m really close and these tips for styling skinny jeans are definitely on time for this petite fall fashion lover."


Tiffany chose Easy Fall Kitchen Tray from Creative Cain Cabin. "I’m all about the seasonal decor and this easy fall look is perfect for any table."


Heather chose Marshmallow Mummy Pops and How to Assemble a Boo Kit from Delightful E Made. "I can't wait to start getting ready for Halloween. This looks like a fun, cute snack to make with the boys."


Heather chose Irish Potato Fondue Recipe from The Jenny Evolution. "I know I'm supposed to be avoiding carbs, but roasted potatoes dipped in cheddar fondu is not something I can resist! It looks great."


Natasha chose Healthy Snack Ideas for Kids from The Jenny Evolution. "I'm still working on getting into a routine now that my son is in kindergarten. Figuring out lunch and snacks are a huge aspect of this routine, and these are definitely some great ideas! Thanks for sharing!"


Natasha chose What In The Hell Are You So Stressed Out About Anyways? from Four Princesses and The Cheese. "Sometimes you just have to share your moment - and I'm thankful for you sharing this moment. Thanks for this great post!"


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