Sunday, April 20, 2014

Happy Easter

Keeping things light...

Today means many things to many people remembrance, celebration, observation, reflection and so forth.

With respect to all that and more since I did grow up with many religious influences, I want to share another great reason this day means so much to me.

Easter Sunday never falls on the same date but obviously on the same day of the week every year.

Nineteen (19) years ago on an Easter Sunday the love of my life was born. Guess that was my special treat!

Every year from that moment on I buy her a new bunny and some sweets. If you read my post "Oops, did I Create that?" picture nineteen (19) years worth of stuffed bunny animals. I didn't take them all down from their current storage spot because it was just too much to work with lol.

I will share the latest addition(s) to the family and a throwback picture of my lil mama dressed in observation of her special day. The new addition smells like actual chocolate!!!!

I will share that if I had to bring a deeper meaning to this day, more than the birth of my child (if anything could be deeper than that) it would be a celebration of life. Things and people die, bring about change and regrowth and with that we go and move forward to carry the lessons they left behind.

I take today to do all that and more with those that I hold dear to my heart.

Have a blessed day! Moderation on the sweets, be mindful, be loving always....stress free.

Saturday, April 19, 2014

Tune out the Crap

This was suppose to be my post for Wednesday, somehow it didn't go through, regardless I think it still can be useful...

Today's post will be slightly brief, or at least brief for me. Why? Well today is my daughter's nineteenth (19) Birth Day. I choose to invest my time today on her, on me, on us.

I will though leave you with some food for thought.

Why are so many mom's blogging about celebrities and their lives, their adventures or their misfortunes?

Why are so many moms period in the grocery store, in the park, in the Salon or in their homes fixated on conversations on people that have no idea they exist?

For those who complain or whine about not having time, of course you don't because you are too busy wasting time on someone else's crap.

Put down that magazine, get off the gossip sites, turn off the television.

Invest your time on you.

Our thoughts are what make us, build us, guide us into becoming something or someone greater. They allow dreams to come true, life to be lived to its full potential if we allow it.
Thoughts especially positive ones help us to heal, to learn, to accept and to change.

When you sit around and dwell in someone else's space you are neglecting your own.

Go out and make today an amazing day about you and those you love.

As always stress free living while I actually Live Love & Laugh xoxo

I have these two (2) books in my library, excellent reads and time well invested in myself, maybe you can pick up a great book too!!!

What do you think?

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Oops, did I Create that?

I knew I was the one who created this when...but first lets back track.

By the time my daughter was born she already had a drawer full of at least a months worth of socks. That also went for pj's, t-shirts and outfits just to name a few things . As most parents do we started to prepare early and stock up on certain things you can't ever have enough of, especially when it comes to little ones.

As time went on when ever I would go to a store and they had socks I would always pick up a few for her. You know the cute ones with bows or little pom poms? The different colors or patterns. The ones with different characters?

Well almost nineteen (19) years later things really haven't changed much and this is what has happened. To the point where she will now go out and spend $20.00 on One pair of socks.

I find this to be a cute story even funny at times but it just goes to show you how we as parents sometimes do create "a monster" for lack of a better word.
My lil mama is proud of her "sock game" as she calls it. Says she enjoys the variety and extra charm a nice pair of socks can add to her outfit.
Boy am I glad it's just socks and not something more costly like her mothers love for handbags and perfumes.

Moderation moderation moderation. I love being Erica's mom!

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Who is really paying attention?

I will try to keep my uneasiness in check.

A few weeks ago while having breakfast my daughter and I heard a news report about the changes to the SAT's coming 2016.

I will say that my daughter is very vocal about the United States as it is but when I tell you she jumped off her seat and was yelling at the television, I am still not doing her reaction justice. Nor am I when I say that I was in sheer disbelief about what I was hearing as well.

My first thought was..."so we are dumbing down the test, instead of  restructuring our educational system so that the kids are learning more and perhaps better and are much better equipped to take these test".
Then my daughter chimed in and commented on the changes to essay and vocabulary. Stating that as is kids are not using their writing and vocabulary skills to full potential.

As a parent of a child that has been fortunate enough to have be exposed to some amazing teachers throughout her school years and to have had the opportunity to attend regular public school, charter school, magnet school and specialized High School at different points in her academic life I have to say that our education system as a whole SUCKS.

I have experienced a variety of teaching styles, school environments and system expectations as a whole and I will say that if you are not a parent that speaks up on your child's behalf, if you are not on top of your child's education and if you do not instill in your child the love and respect for learning and when to speak up when they feel they are being short changed, then your child will surely fall through the cracks and be on the road to failure.

Gone are the days of teacher knows best, if you are lucky that teacher is there because they want to make a differance in children's lives and have a part in building a better, stronger future not because they belong to a Union and get summers off.

This is not to say that there are not some wonderful teachers because there are but we also have to accept that our system has some pretty rotten ones as well. Also that our system does not help those wonderful teachers do their jobs and have support when needed.

Our educational system ranks indicate that, our graduation rates indicate that, our Science, Math and English rankings indicate that.

So if we adjust current testing style or styles because SAT's are not our only testing system, what else would be or should be adjusted?
Is it that we do not expect or should not expect our children to be fully capable to compete with other countries?

I live in New York City where some have issues with Charter school system when they clearly see amazing results simply because it is not part of the New York City Board of Education. I say if something is working let's have more of it and if what we already have isn't then let's break it down and rebuild again.

Our children really are our future, they are an investment in our future care system, security system, educational system so why not prepare them well so that we can be in good hands?
How can we be or truly become an amazing United States of America if some of our kids can't even read a book and summarize the content properly?

I am including some links for added info, tell me what you think. Always about starting a conversation, passionate about stress free living.