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Sunday, October 19, 2014

So what you're saying is...I really Don't have the Right to Die?

Hello my sweets, this won't be much of a long post but it will be a bold post.

This is me urging you as a mother or father to do the right thing, the loving thing and work on your wills and know the laws in your state.

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No parent or young parent at that wants to think about or even discuss death but it is real and we must  do the responsible thing and prepare as best we can for it.

I have I believe made comments in the past about how horrified my mother was when I took out life insurance for my daughter about a year or so after she was born. Around the same time I did the same for her father and myself.
Having my daughter made me realize and wake up to how precious life can be and how quickly it can also go away.

The idea of mourning and collecting money for a funeral was not an option I ever wanted to be faced with.
This same thought applied when I had my Will drawn several years ago.

Let your wishes be known. Discuss these things early and often enough so the discomfort goes away and so that with your family unit changes you can make adjustments.

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I am touching on this today because of this article I came across a few days ago.
This woman and her family had to move to another state after she became ill and was dying. She wanted to have the right to die with dignity and in her terms and her state didn't allow for those options.
I learned some new things I wasn't aware of about our government and our right to die.

I am always ticked off at how much control others want to have on my life and my family structure.
Be informed and start a conversation.
Ask questions don't go through life blindly following things and rules just because they have been around for ever. Times change...adjust with them. Do what is best for your family.
Knowledge is power.

Here is link to the story, go take a look. What do you think about her request, her options and what is indeed provided?

And please lets not grab on to religion. No disrespect to anyone or any group. I am a very spiritual human being. I believe that there is no way the higher power would want me to suffer and have my family watch me suffer if I could have other options. That is just me. Spread love and respect.

Always stress free xo.


  1. I am amazed how much we think alike, Mari. Very well said.

  2. Well said. I believe that people should have more control over their life up until the very last breath. My family has been very open with each other concerning our wishes and I'm grateful for that. It's comforting to know that if and when your number's called your loved ones will know how you wish things to be handled.

    1. Brandyn thanks for visit and comment. Funny isn't it that we should hope hope such things on something called our lives? Hope to see you here again. ;)

  3. Sage advice. I would add that the moment you know you are going to be a parent, start working on and finalizing that will AND living will! You nailed it - it's the right thing to do.

    1. Nikki, thanks for visit and comment you are so right about the living will!

  4. I have always said that I never want to be a burden to anybody and includes myself.

    I think you should have control over your death. If you want to avoid long suffering, you should be able to.

    I have told my kids my feelings and hopefully they will follow through.

    1. Patrick, hey again, thanks for visit. I am with you on that, I too hope my loved ones respect my wishes it's the least they can do.

  5. This is such a difficult topic to talk about with anyone. Having three recent close family deaths in a row, I think having conversations about how a person wants to die is important and steps need to be taken funeral wishes too. I've watched my MIL and mom suffer through cancer, so I know how hard terminal illness can be on everyone. I don't think my MIL would've chosen to end her life, but I think my mother would have if she was given the choice. She was in so much pain towards the end and it still brings tears to my eyes to think about it.
    On the flip side, if a nationwide law was put in place to allow assisted death, I think there needs to be protection for the healthcare worker to choose not to participate in assisted death too. I wouldn't want to force someone to assist a death that goes against what they believe in.

    1. Erlene, thanks for visit and comments. I agree totally on the guidlines, no one should be forced to partake in assisting anything they don't feel comfy in for sure. I feel having the option is all anyone would ever wish for, laws should protect us not stop us from living the lives we choose.


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