Sunday, June 14, 2015

The Duggar's, another failed "Reality"

When will I stop being shocked at all these crazy back stories that come out of these "reality" shows? When will society stop building these people's lives up only to watch them tumble down? When will enough be enough and when will poor actions have consequences?

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I don't know enough about this family to feel much other than sadness over the current events. I only know the snippets I see when I go to check my Yahoo email, or what I hear on the news, see in a magazine or newspaper. I do remember feeling sad for the mom when she lost baby # I am not sure and having it play out on television. I only know that in the past year at least one sister is everywhere, dating, engaged or getting married. I only know that I was drop jaw shocked a few weeks ago when news broke of Josh Duggar and his past.

This is a family paraded on television on their values, on family unit, on religion and on love. The "family" is everything motto, the more the merrier. Purity is a staple in their upbringing and focused on often in interviews and books.

Now the curtain has been pulled, the rug has been pulled everything has been pulled to reveal the unfortunate secret that one of the son's in the past has sexually abused his sisters? So many victims in this tragedy who is really to blame?

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Today alone I came across 10! articles on this family. Several focus on the "how dare someone leak" such information, others on interviews with the parents and very little on this fact...the re-victimization of these girls. Was it right or wrong how this information was obtained is a valid point but we are here now so how about we focus on what is important?

I caught some of the parent's interview and did find certain comments disturbing I also saw the sister's talking and found comments odd but I feel this is a perfect time to start a conversation on how to move away from reality shows even more or all together.

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Why are we so "entertained" by others misery and failures? Why are we drown to such stories and lifestyles? Why are there more reality shows on television than family programming and educational material? Are we really a society building on the bottom dollar at the expense of morality and values?
What are your thoughts? Do you think its no big deal to invest so much time on reality television? Do you feel its just harmless fun and if you just change the channel, who cares?

Always stress free xo.

18 comments:

  1. great post, I watched a few episodes but am NOT a reality TV person. I think the BIG shock was that they paraded their religion and family values around. They would not allow homosexual couples to post pics on their blog...which is their choice. But then to turn around and hide the fact that their son molested and violated their daughters. How is that okay and not two consenting adults who love each other. They have been proven to be just as twisted as everyone else, even worse because they hid it and kept acting as they always do.

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    1. Karen that is what shocked me as well, you want to push on others religion and values but in your home the values and "religion" don't exist. Thanks for comments :)

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  2. I agree that the I had the biggest issue with the fact that they hid this while preaching religion and such. I think if they would have been open and honest about it we wouldn't all be so appalled.

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    1. Cassie welcome and thanks for stopping by. Well I'm just appalled at the standing behind "religion" period. Many people use that as a coverup for their own selfish gain and they are perfect example. You can't preach to the masses if you are stained but you will surely get a few. They were concerned about financial and media gain not about right and wrong. Thanks for comments and visit hope to see you here again :)

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  3. Personally I hate reality shows they are getting worse and worse-Sombody get paid a lot of money to think these things up and people keep watching,The network love them because they are so much cheaper to produce. Give me the Walking Dead or NCIS any day

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I am with you on NCIS! Love that program. It's a sad truth most people rather watch foolish tv then innocent entertainment or something that requires a little more thought. Hope you drop by again :)

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  4. I don't watch a lot reality TV. I know that they are a lot cheaper than scripted shows for the networks but I have a huge problem with them. I feel that go for the lowest common denominator in our society, It is almost like the Jerry Springer crowd has taken over. I watch a lot PBS-lol. It is funny, because I went to a forum with Peter Coyote was speaking at and he has been asked to narrate a reality show or two and will not do it.

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    1. Patrick hey! isn't it funny how money plays such a role to the extent it creeps into television? Our society is going nuts...

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  5. I don't even know where to start with this! The whole situation is so very sad on so many levels. As far as reality TV in and of itself goes, I feel that it really serves only to dumb down our nation. We focus so much on all the drama that important news stories--including amazing scientific discoveries--get overshadowed...not to mention the negative examples of human behavior being shown as the "norm" or something to be aspired to. I could probably write a book on how I feel about this!

    Thank you so much for sharing with us at #MommyMeetupMondays!

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    1. Brandyn thanks for comments, I agree about the dumb down nation for sure. Love MMM's!

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  6. My daughter is glued to the Kardashians. I can not stand them! So fake and not real. Dollar signs in their eyes. I go on a rant every time I hear them on tv! Bad role models for girls. Same for the Duggars. Who tries to handle a child that touches another child within the family. Wacky! They need therapy people! Ok I'm done ranting! The thing about reality tv is most of it is staged. It isn't reality. So I 'm with you, why are we glued to it. Thank you so much for linking up to Merry Monday this week! I am sharing your post today on my FB page. We hope to see you next week for another great party! Have a great week!
    Best,
    Kim

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    1. Kim thanks for sharing your comments and visiting. Now lets turn that rant into a great conversation with our kids lol. I believe that as parents we need to talk with our kids in a language they can understand about what reality tv really means and give examples. I feel once we do that the glamour will wear off. See you soon on MM!

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  7. I don't watch a lot of reality TV (although I am addicted to The Bachelorette)! I think idealizing people we see on TV builds us up for a letdown. I feel sorry for this family too. Thanks for sharing at the Manic Mondays blog hop!

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    1. Meredith glad to share over at MM! Have a great weekend keep enjoying your Bachelorette...

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  8. I don't think the Duggar's or any other family on TV owes the general public an explanation of anything and everything which has ever occurred in their lives. What that young man did was not excusable but it also wasn't public information and it isn't a factor to judge the entire family based on something one member of the family did as a young teenager. I can't understand for the life of me why folks are not concerned about the motives of the person who broke the law to reveal a police record of a minor child.

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    1. Shirley thanks for visiting and commenting. It's unfortunate all around for certain perhaps the big picture is shedding light on matters some want to sweep under the rug that damage families as a whole but true that is for them to figure out. Thanks again for stopping by.

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  9. I loved reality TV when I was younger, but now it's all really stupid to me. While I never watched the Duggar show, this whole debacle has sparked many a conversation about dealing with abuse which I appreciate. When lessons can be taught and learned at the expense of others, why not? But you ask a good question, why is this crap so entertaining for so many? Thanks for linking up at #MommyMeetUpMondays.

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    1. Jules love MMM! thanks for stopping by and commenting :)

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