Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Discover who You really are

Discover who You are, not what Others want you to be.

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 It is never easy regardless of your age to start over again. Fear is fear no matter the form in which it presents itself and anxiety doesn't stay too far behind either. If we are lucky though in our life time we will go through many amazing changes.

Such was the case for me the time I decided to go to dinner alone. I'm not talking about grabbing a pizza and soda. I'm talking about walking into a fairly nice restaurant and asking for a table for one. Waiting to be seated, being walked over, settling down and when your all cozy asking the waiter/waitress to bring over your favorite drink along with the menu. "Will you be dining alone? Yes. Ok, I'll be back in a moment, thank you."

At first I must admit I was self conscious of others looking at me and wondering why I was alone but then I thought "who cares?" I began to relax and really enjoy my drink. I looked at the menu carefully and ordered something semi new within reason of course I mean who the heck wants a tummy ache for crying out loud. As the waitress took my order we smiled and exchanged lite conversation and as she walked away I kept smiling in gratitude. I am here, this is fun, I am alone but I am not lonely.

While I waited for my dinner to arrive I read a magazine something I hadn't done in a while because I was always rushing. I turned the pages slowly, took in every picture and every word and still that smile stayed on my face. The music played softly in the background, families laughed, kids were being fed by their moms, couples held hands and chatted. My dinner finally arrived.

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I had pan seared Salmon. It had a few other things with it but it's been four years can't recall whole plate but I can tell you that it was one of the best dates I've ever had. No stress about the conversation topics, not rushing through my food but instead savoring every forkful and really being in the moment. Looking at every bite, taking in every scent of what was presented to me on that plate. Grateful. To top things off I ordered Raspberry Cheesecake! Amazing so soft and fluffy and thick and rich and creamy all in one.

Once I was ready to leave and asked for my check, I took a long look around my surroundings and thought...Alone time is priceless.

I discovered that:
-fear is not always your enemy but just a cautious friend
-loss is never easy but sometimes totally neccesary and even freeing
-who You woke up being doesn't have to be the same person you put to bed
-if your so called loved ones don't see your potential then they are not really seeing you
-time moves, wounds heal and authentic love is forever
-every moment is truly filled with a chance to move in another direction
-forever is only as long as you want it to be

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Four years and tons of alone time later I still look back on that day and smile a grand smile. I believe it should be a requirement of us all to invest in some time alone with ourselves. Time to do and be only for and about us. What we want, what we like, what we think and what we feel. Time to Discover who we really are.

Especially parents, we are almost expected to believe we are suppose to sacrifice ourselves for our families, for our children but No! There is no need to sacrifice just a desire to find a workable balance. It isn't about having it all it is about working with what you currently have and aiming towards something better if that is indeed your goal.

Discover who you really are you are your greatest investment.

What has been your greatest discovery about yourself?

Always stress free xo,


  1. Hi. I just wanted to say i freaking love this blog. Its kl to just read and live in your thoughts for a few minutes, for all the random peculiarities of the world... be they postitive or negative. Im not a parent or ever want to predict what im going to do, but i just wanted to say that. DR

    1. DR Thanks for dropping by and sharing your comments.

  2. Such an insightful piece of work Mari you always bring color and texture to your writing. I am at the point where solitude is crying out to me directly at my spirit, I just might attempt to take myself out to a nice new uncharted dinner place and feel that kind of energy, something I've never done. How special are you to have experienced that I feel as if I'm always with someone doing something and never embraced the reality that you can do it alone sometimes. I love your work, keep making us think positively and continue to share your thoughts and feelings.

    1. Yes! Go have a beautiful dinner alone John you deserve it. Sit and be grateful for whatever that may mean to you. Give yourself the attention you give others. Always grateful for your visits and comments. Please share with us your experience when you do get around to it.

  3. Very nice story Mari. I find I like being alone better than being a crowd.Thanks for linking up to Merry Monday! Pinned! Have a great week!

    1. Kim thanks for stopping by and sharing your comment. Love MM Link party :)

  4. I've siscovered lately that I should keep doing what I love to do because that is where I can gain sucess and help others.

    1. Yes stay on your track and success will come. You can only be you and that is awesome enough! Thanks for visit and commenting


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