Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Do we know when to just...Shut Up?

I woke up this morning with the intention of not complaining. I am not a complainer on a regular but of course I have some moments in my day when I do suck my teeth.

As I am writing this my post yet has no title.

What I am about to write on is exactly the reason why I feel people are too busy with other people's business and not investing enough time on their own.
Society is filled more and more each day with people watchers and not enough doers.

How am I a good role model for my daughter if I invest my time not only observing the lives of others but also sitting down and commenting about them?
How do I live my best life when I am consumed with how another is living theirs?

I got to my office this morning, logged into my computer and one of the first things I see when my Yahoo news feed comes up is this headline "Angelina's wedding gown a gross display of parenting run amok".
I stop for a second was about to dismiss it but the use of the word gross caught my attention and I chose to continue to read.

Basically the article addresses someones non approval of Angelina Jolie's choice to use her children's art work on her Wedding gown.
Really? So not only did you not approve, but you felt as a fellow human being yes with the freedom to speak your mind, you chose to speak about this?

Not about the state of our education system, not about the state of nutrition in our schools, not about the senseless killings of our children by those who are suppose to be protecting us, not about tools on how to empower our youth, not about how to build a sense of community by teaching our kids to volunteer but instead about the choice a woman had about her special day.

I am shocked every day by the types of people I share my world with. Those that feel their opinion is the only opinion, that their truth is the only truth, that their idea of God is the only God or what God represents, that every thought they have should be spoken.

Today I am going to say please just shut up. Please take an extra second before you press send or open your mouth.
Mindfulness and Kindness. Treating others as we would like to be treated, what happened to that concept?

If on any given day of my life I choose to display anything that my child has done I will.
If I use it on my desk, on my fridge or on my personal item of clothing it is my choice to do so.
If I decide to get married tomorrow and have my daughter run the show for me...why do you care?
How is it hurting you? How have I lost control or over indulged my child because I chose to include them in this very personal process?

I can write about this for hours but I will stop here. I will include link to article and allow for your own observations and possible comments and shares here.

I am a woman, I am a mother, I am part of a bigger picture. My responsibility is to teach my daughter respect and love. To be independent and strong and compassionate. To lead, not follow but to also know when to be a team player. To have her own thoughts and choices and to be ok with having her wedding
day be whatever it will be for her if she so chooses to have one.

What are your thoughts? Lets have a chat?

Always stress free xo

This is a share of just a few of the pieces of artwork my Lil mama has left for me or given me over the years. They are proudly displayed all over my office and I dare anyone to tell me how and where I can use them.


  1. Let the church say Amen! Sadly, this is the society that we live in. I never get how some folks can be so overly obsess with celebrities and the life that they choose to live. The 1st amendment is a gift and a curse. Folks will spew all kinds of vitriol all in the name of freedom of expression. I think as a society we can be further along if we'd just manage to focus on the important things in life.

    1. Agree Natasha!!! You can hear a loud Amen over here lol. Thanks for visit and comments.

  2. I try to stay in my lane. Too many people are screaming about everybody else and not taking care of themselves. It easier to attempt to fix others than to fix yourself.

    I think weddings and such have become something for everybody else but the two getting married. I remember all of the stuff and attitudes when I married to my ex and then people comparing our wedding to others. Ugh. It makes a lot of money for others.

    As for my daughter, I don't care if she has a big wedding or decides to have in it a local park with five there. As long as she is happy. We try to make others happy but not ourselves.

    1. Patrick I agree it's like a production of who can outshine who instead of what marriage means and and your intent. Thanks for comments and visit :)

  3. Preach! BTW, I like the gown - very unique and no one else will EVER have 1 like it! ;-)

  4. I love that you mentioned your daughter's artwork is all over your spaces! YES! That's how it should be. If Angelina want to honor her daughter in that way, let her be. Maybe the writer wouldn't who cares! Though, yes, we are all entitled to our opinion, I'm with you in that I wish we'd use our voices for more transformational messaging especially for this next generation that's coming up MORE confused, lost, and just clueless...

    1. Kesha, I agree we should be using our voices to spread more positive messages and content for sure. Thank you for visit and comments, we shall chat soon xo

  5. Yes!!!!! I say this all the time! Why do we waste our freedom of speech on something like this? Why not on all the other stuff that are truly impacting our kids and this world? I also proudly display all my son's artwork around my apartment and my office. It brings a smile to my face every time I look up and see some of his artwork on my wall.

    Thanks so much for sharing on Turn It Up Tuesday! And so glad to have you guest hosting this month! Great post! :)

    1. Natasha, thank you for visit and comments. Thanks for support and having me over at TIUT I am loving my guest host duty xo!!! I can only think that emptiness is what drives people to engage in useless chatter.

  6. Great article! I'm loving this! Pinned.It's always a pleasure to have you be a part of our party. Please take a minute tonight at 7 pm, to party with us!
    Happy Monday! Lou Lou Girls

    1. Kimberly, thanks once again. I appreciate you ladies having me over xo see you tonight :)


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