When do we start and when do they finish? Do we follow our parents or do we go at it on our own?
Now that my daughter is almost twenty I am very glad we always had some sort of rules. It really has paid off ten fold!!! While visiting with a friend of a friend a few weeks ago I quietly observed her kids and household and this old post came to mind.
This is a post I shared over a year ago...
illustration by casandracampbell.com
Rules?
These were some of my house rules:
Learn to be flexible, allow your children the right to question your rules and express their feelings on them. Learn that nothing is set in stone and each child is different.
Are there rules with no exceptions? What are some of your rules?
Today my daughter still lives at home while being a full time college student and holding down a job. The rules have been adjusted through out the years but we still have rules non the less.
It is still my house, our home and it must be respected.
- Should be tested, broken and amended accordingly.
- Nothing should be followed blindly or set in stone.
These were some of my house rules:
- homework is always first, then playtime.
- must have breakfast every morning
- bedtime was 8 pm, after 6th grade it increased by an hour.
- sleepovers were only allowed if I knew the parent and had visited their home at some point, even if to drop off for a play date. this was amended as my daughter became a teen.
- no last minute request to stay over at friends house or to go visit a friends house, period. always required ample time to gather all information.
- no friends in the room with door closed. This rule was amended after 6th grade.
Learn to be flexible, allow your children the right to question your rules and express their feelings on them. Learn that nothing is set in stone and each child is different.
Are there rules with no exceptions? What are some of your rules?
Today my daughter still lives at home while being a full time college student and holding down a job. The rules have been adjusted through out the years but we still have rules non the less.
It is still my house, our home and it must be respected.
- I must know location of where she will be
- I must have at least one other number to call in case of emergency
- she must use a cab if coming home past midnight
- phone must charged at all times
- advance notice if guests coming over, same for sleep overs
- no getting in car with someone who has been drinking
- you are not a minor so I can't save your butt if you get into certain types of trouble
- must save a portion of her salary
- must contribute to at least one house bill
- your room is in my house, keep it neat, clean and yes I respect your privacy but I still have the right if I feel necessary to go in and take a look (I never have felt the need, till this day).
These are some of our current rules. What are some of your rules for your at home college kids?
Share your thoughts.
Always stress free xo.
Share your thoughts.
Always stress free xo.
I really need to get some set rules again - I had them when they were kids but I have a teenager at home and a nearly 20 year old at college. My teenager is bound to try and break every rule going but I think they are needed. Thanks for linking up to Pin Worthy Wednesday, I have pinned your post to the Pin Worthy Wednesday Pinterest Board.
ReplyDeleteAmber thanks for having me over and thanks for comments. Hey at least if they do try and break the rules you started with having some. Imagine if there where none to begin with? Chat again soon :)
DeleteMari, you already know that we have so much in common. This topic is no different. I will admit that we do have some rules that are set in stone, no exceptions - but they all revolve around 1 key concept... RESPECT.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
Oh yes Nikki I know. I hear that loud and clear. Same on this end lol thanks for stopping by, great project share the other day :)
DeleteI had rules but as they got older I made the rules so that they had to have some ownership in the deal.
ReplyDelete- if you do something stupid and something that you know you are not supposed to be doing, you can get yourself to the hospital.
-No drinking, smoking in the house.
- You dirty it, you better clean it.
-If you get arrested for doing something you are supposed be doing, do not call my house until normal working hours. I will not bail you out and I hope that you get arrested (not really) on a Friday with a Monday holiday and a Wednesday furlough day, so you will be there for at least a week.
-You need to buy some food.
I know that sounds harsh but I have friends kids that are doing nothing as adults. Living at home with no responsibility and still having their parents cater to them. Sorry, I can't do that.
Patrick thanks for stopping by, I couldn't help but laugh at the jail comment because it sounded as if you really put some thought into that scenerio lol. Hope it never has to play out, thanks for share!
DeleteLove this post Mari, and the house rules that put in place for your daughter! It's so important to have things in place for our kids!
ReplyDeleteCathy @ three kids and a fish
Cathy, thanks for stoping by. Those helped me for sure keep the stress low and laughter in the house on high :)! Chat again soon.
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