Sunday, May 25, 2014

Who is More Perverted?

I wasn't going to invest time in this until last week when I read the latest on the story.

Who is really more perverted, the people in this photo or the ADULT(S) who saw or see this photo and find a problem?

Whoever saw this picture and saw something sexual is either a prude or someone who grew up alone without siblings, friends or family. If that is the case, then they have been living in a cave for a very long time.

I would like to not believe that culture, race or anything of the sort is the reason behind this outrage but all the commotion makes me question what else can it be?

I won't take the liberty and say I speak for most but I believe I speak for many when I say that even I have pictures that look similar to that in some way, as do numerous friends and other family members.

As a teen or young adult with younger or older siblings, who hasn't been in a room just relaxing on the bed talking or playing games? Who hasn't walked around their home or places they feel comfortable in without a T-shirt on if your a male and in house clothes if you a female?

Who hasn't had sleepovers? Who hasn't had friends over to their pools? Who hasn't had a group of kids of a variety of ages just hanging around doing nothing?

I had many a days where my male family members and their friends would be in same room as the girls shirtless watching television, listening to music or playing games. Both on the floor and on the bed. No one ever thought anything of it.

I had many visits over at my friends houses where their brothers or sisters would walk around shirtless or with a bra on. I had many a times when relatives or friends of my friends would visit from another country or state and walk around again shirtless or in their comfy house clothes.

Was it the bed that made it scandalous? Why is it not scandalous when our kids are at the beach with their friends and family in bikinis and shorts in lounge chairs or towels? Not to mention along side of total strangers.

Is it scandalous that siblings wear minimal clothing in their homes as well?

When does it become perverse and who deems it so?

In the summer time, many men walk around shirtless, sit in the park, ride their bikes etc...should a parent be investigated because they allowed their young child to be around said men?

Should every home be investigated that has kids interacting in their bedrooms?

I find this such a waste of ink, time, energy and money? Child services investigating a family on a picture where no one is even TOUCHING one another? Seriously? Why not investigate a real issue? Why not invest time on real abuse?

This is a scene from many a homes from NYC to LA, from Michigan to North Carolina, from Columbia, Puerto Rico or Dominican Republic, from Hawaii to Cambodia. Any place in the world where young people interact...this has happened.

My daughter had numerous occasions where she slept over at her friend's house and their siblings had other friends or cousins there. both younger and older in age and they did the same thing as I did, lounge around a room, a den or a living room talking, playing games or music or watching television. One of my oldest friends who is like a sister to me has two older boys and they had their Football teammates over all the time that would walk around shirtless and be in the kids rooms while the adults hung out elsewhere.

I have never felt that allowing those moments both in my life and in my daughter's life to have been poor judgment. To have your children with their siblings and their friends in the same room to Me is normal.

Young people, again I say investing time in close proximity is normal. They lay on each others shoulders, hold each others arms, lay on their legs, invade each others personal space just plain goof around. in their regular clothes, in shorts, in pajamas in whatever.
I did it, my daughter did and still does it and my nieces, nephews and their friends still do the same.
Should we all be investigated as well?

Adults stop being so disgusting, so ridiculous, so perverse, so prudish and get a life.

What do you have to say?




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2 comments:

  1. When I first saw the picture, I thought Willow was naked underneath the covers with him. Due to the darkness of the picture, her clothing seemed to match the bedding. So I was initially shocked by it. It wasn't until later when I read an article stating that she was fully clothed that I looked at it closer.

    I still have mixed feelings about it because the guy has his shirt off and they are lying on a bed. However it doesn't prove anything sexual was going on. There could have been a room full of people with them. The general public has no idea.

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    1. Kimberly, thanks for visit and comment. Appreciate your point of view at least you went back to pic and took second look. Hope to see you here again :)

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