Sunday, April 26, 2015

Today I had to Check Myself

Hey! Happy Sunday I am enjoying a peaceful day at home on my chaise lounge readying, writing and sorting through some mail.
I've had a busy but wonderful past week. I started my Words that Move writers workshop this week as well as my Women on the Edge of Evolution online conference. What an amazing experience thus far. Great shares to follow!!!

Anyhow, while I sat here a thought came to mind about something that happened to me a short while ago. One of those parenting moments some of us have we think we are above having. 

My daughter and I are extremely close. As you can see from the shares on my blog. Our differences are what allow us to continue to teach and learn from one another. 

This has always been the case in the past 20 years of our lives. In the investment of these years I have always made sure I was clear that my purpose as her mother was to guide and support. That I would have but x amount of time to do these things before she would be out in the world implementing them and on her own no longer needing so much of my guidance.

Well....here's the moment I forgot all that and then had to check myself.


You see, my daughter went away for the weekend to New Paltz to visit her friend in school. The whole weekend we only spoke via text about three times and one of those days 10 hours passed and we had not spoken, what?! That never happens, even when she would go away as a youngster to North Carolina with her best friend and her family for the summer. We always talk via text during the day, sometimes she's in class and we are yapping about music, clothes, television, something.

On the 11th hour I finally texted her and commented on the time, she just said "oh been relaxing."
With that response I said goodnight and sat with my thoughts for a while.

Why was I feeling bothered? Why was the length of time an issue? What was going on in my head?
Answer...my daughter is getting older and has her own life.
She is implementing all I have taught and for some brief moments I wasn't prepared for the reality of it. Part of the parenting package. Motherhood life.

At her age I was already living on my own for a year and living with her dad at that. I had a full time job, had passed on College and was totally responsible for myself and my household. I should have been totally ok with the lack of communication for a few hours but I wasn't.
I had to check myself.

Everything is fine, we are still as close as ever, she still likes my company and we are growing in our journey together. She is just growing up, into a wonderful independent young woman. Just like you wanted, just like you said and just like you did.

Motherhood life...sometimes we just have to Check Ourselves. Have you had one of these moments? Share how you handled it. 

Always stress free xo. 

13 comments:

  1. I can see myself doing that when my daughter is your daughter's age. Even when she's an adult, I'll want to know where she is at all times. Haha! :D

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    1. Tarynn thanks for stopping by, they will always be our babies right lol!

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  2. This reminds me so much of my mom and I. I know this is how it will be with me and my daughter as well! The bond between a mother and daughter is very special, and our job is never really done!

    Thank you for sharing with us at #MommyMeetupMondays!

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    1. Thanks Brandyn for stopping by and for having me over at MMM :)

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  3. Awww. My mom and I didn't have those communication options but we are very close also. When I was living in Japan we had a schedule. Once a week we would have a short phone call - (calling card days). When we both finally got our first computer late 1998 we e-mail EVERYDAY. Then webcams came out. The video was delayed horribly but we could see each other. We used some kind of instant chat thing called ICQ and chatted back and forth while we looked at each other. Fast forward to today. If I don't have a text of something from her in 10 hours I tease her and daddy saying I was about to call the carbon monoxide police. At age 20 she is at a different point in her life but that 10 hours without talking isn't going to last long. Four or five years tops!

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    1. Kenya, thanks for stopping by mama. Too funny calling card days! That's what her dad use to use to chat with his mother in DR. Yes I just have to roll with the wave and be ok with it for sure :)

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  4. This is a very touching post, and brings back memories of my daughter going away to college. The first month or 2 we talked regularly, but she started making friends and enjoining the college life and we talked less and less. It was difficult initially, but she continued down the path that I had placed her on. She enjoyed all that life had to offer her, and is now happily married to her college sweetheart and has blessed me with 2 beautiful grandchildren.

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    1. Awhhh Rhonda, love this share. Thanks for stopping by xo

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  5. I went through a similar situation with my daughter ... only she actually 'disowned' me for a period of 6 months - no contact, no calls, no nothing ... they were the hardest most depressing months of my life.

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    1. Kim I can't even imagine what that would be like or feel. Thanks for sharing and visit. Hope these moments of disconnect in the big picture bring us closer and wiser.

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  6. I totally understand my daughter is twenty too and away at college in her last year and sometimes I have to remind myself that she is a grown up and has her own life - Thanks for linking up to Pin Worthy Wednesday, I have pinned your post to the Pin Worthy Wednesday Pinterest Board.

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    1. Amber, thank you. Seems like the twenty years flew by sometimes I'm sure lol. Still sometimes today I just look at her and say wow my little lady is all grown up. Ahhhhh motherhood.

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  7. Awesome post. Pinned and tweeted. I hope to see you on Monday at 7, we can’t wait to party with you! Lou Lou Girls

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