In the past I was very quick to just say what first came to mind and to respond to a question or situation at that very moment.
The cost of me doing so changed my life completely, so much so that I will never be the same again.
I found myself in a place I didn't like and didn't want to be in. I found myself disappointed in my actions and causing myself to live within walls that weren't allowing me to grow. If we are not growing daily...then we are not truly living.
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How did I learn and change?
Well I started by learning the practice of Meditation. Then I began to practice Yoga. Then I began to learn how to Listen (still working on it) Then I began to ask myself some hard questions.
-Who am I?
-What do I accomplish when I just pop off at the mouth?
-When I am speaking in haste or anger, am I still meriting respect?
-If I say what comes to mind am I adding to the problem or providing a solution?
Granted we all are emotional beings, some would say women more than men but if we allow our emotions to dictate our behavior we are just setting ourselves up for failure.
Failure in communication, in being heard, in Listening, in compromise and in respect.
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As a mother I didn't want to teach my daughter that my actions were ok. I didn't want her to think it was acceptable behavior to text, tweet, email, post or talk to anyone when she was in a moment of anger or discomfort. Most of the time once you say something it is very difficult to take it back and even saying I am sorry, won't cut it.
So next time someone upsets you, questions you or says something that causes you discomfort take a deep breath allow a few minutes to pass and then answer. You can even say I need some time to respond to that, I will have to get back to you.
Practice practice practice trust me you will be far better for it.
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you
will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
-- Chinese Proverb
What are your thoughts, have you said something you wish you could take back and it still haunts you days, weeks even years later? Do you have any tips that can help in staying calm in times of Chaos?
Always stress free xo,
Mari
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ReplyDeleteLove this post! I can relate!
ReplyDeleteSophia, thanks for visit and comment :)
DeleteGood for you, unfortunately so many others fail to learn that lesson! Happy Friday!
ReplyDeleteAntionette unfortunate is right!
Delete"If we are not growing daily...then we are not truly living" how true i that statement!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Cami xo! Live life :)
DeleteThis is a great post, and I love that proverb. Thanks for sharing x #smallvictoriessundaylinkup
ReplyDeleteClaire thanks for stopping by appreciate :)
DeleteKnowing you've done wrong is heading in the right direction for fixing it. We all get caught up in the moment sometimes, don't be too hard on yourself :) #turnituptuesdays
ReplyDeleteHey welcome and thanks for commenting. Yes kindness to ourselves and self care is always great route. Hope to see you here again soon
DeleteHI Mari! This is SO wise!! I've been in the same situation - finding myself having said things I will regret forever. Learning to keep silent is probably one of the greatest lessons I've ever learned. Thanks for linking up at Share the Wealth Sunday. :)
ReplyDeleteHey Carly thank you appreciate you having me over :) hopefully a lesson we don't have to learn again. Thanks for stopping by hope to see you here again
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