Routine is Boring, Spice is Key

How is everyone this Sunday? Here in NYC it is raining, slippery and cold. My lil mama fell while on her way to work earlier this morning and had to turn back and change her shoes. Then when she finally got to work she sends me a text to not go out unless necessary because the roads were very dangerous. So that was affirmation for me to just stay in bed lounging lol.

This weather got me thinking of a post a wrote some time back about keeping the Spark in your relationship Don't lose the Spark  and I thought I would update a post I wrote on one way you can do that...

Hope you guys consider this and share how things went but keep it PG lol.

Go on a date.

Long and late work days?
Too many commitments to keep this month?
Your significant other's schedule and yours don't seem to find a date that meets?
Well how about we schedule one? Every month without fail?

As parents sometimes we tend to forget we are also adults and need alone quality time with other adults or our partners. So just like we schedule their play dates why don't we begin to schedule ours?
These dates are very important. They keep us connected intimately to our partners, give us time to bond, regroup and reconnect in ways that have nothing to do with our kids but everything to do with our family unit.

Don’t forget you have a life outside of your children.
Go to the movies, a quiet dinner, go dancing. How about a night at a hotel with a spa treatment in the morning?
Now that Winter is here why not do things that require some cuddling? Scary movies are great for that, so are Football events and it is Football season. Why not sit and enjoy the game with your sweetie. What about laying in bed giving each other foot massages as you make plans for your next date.
How about a night out Skating!!! A great excuse to hold on tight. Loose yourself in the music have a great time.

Anything that is for you and not kid related go out and do. Remember to always have fun, just because you are a parent doesn't mean it’s not allowed.
It totally is.
Spice is Key!

Always stress free xo

Don't lose the Spark

Thursday's Treat!

I usually share a dish I made that was quick, easy and stress free. Nourishing to the body, heart and spirit.
Today I want to share my thoughts on something just as stress free and just as nourishing...Love.
*If you have prudish tendencies don't continue to read*

On my walk last night again I saw a couple that made me smile from ear to ear.
They must have been in their late 50's early 60's, they are living what I believe, which is in a relationship make sure you don't lose the Spark.

They were holding hands, snuggling, she was rubbing his arm and he was kissing her cheek and massaging her back.

Don't get comfortable, don't be complacent, don't invite boredom and avoid routine.

I am a firm believer that no matter what age you are or how long you have been together it is never ok to leave the house or walk in the house without a kiss and a hug.
No matter what the situation, it is never ok not to greet one another with love and affection.

Making out, groping, squeezing, feeling up,slaps on the butt, quickies, oral games, toys etc...do not have expiration dates or age limits.
If your partner ignited those feelings in you and you in them whether it was at 16, 22, 28 or 37 as your relationship grows and the years pass that same spark should be felt in some way.

If you are not excited about your partner. If the thought of them 90% of the time doesn't bring you a smile, if you are not happy to hear their voice or see their face on your phone screen the majority of the time, then you need to start asking yourself why not?

Yes ok I know, we have lives, we work, we have kids, we have bills, we have disagreements but so what!
This is the person you love.
This is the guy who you couldn't wait to call you. The one that just the thought of his hands on you made you lose control. This is the woman that walked in the room and your penis was at attention. This is the woman you couldn't wait to get in a room alone!

Humans thrive on touch. We crave warmth, we yearn for affection. Pay attention to your partner.
Let's continue to be grown and sexy at any age.
Let's role play, let's dance, let's laugh, let's cry, let's make love, let's have sex, let's grow older together not old and loveless together.

Couples should never be going days at a time without some form of sexual connection. Not a day should go without a tender kiss or touch and an affirmation of I love you. Affection and sexuality and forms of such expression are in abundance, research! Be creative! The same energy you place on shopping around for that great dress or those beautiful throw pillows is the same energy you place on learning new positions, trying a new restaurant or going for a walk or watching a movie together.

This is the person you love! Show it.
Now go nourish your soul and be stress free and come back with great comments or other tips to add to my share.

Always stress free xo