Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Forever Young

It is 9 pm and I just returned home from a visit with my grandma, had to bring her some things. As some of you may know I am the majority care giver for my 90 year old grandmother aside from her two (2) home attendants. One has been with her for over nine (9) years Monday thru Thursday, Fridays depends on availability. Saturday and Sunday attendant has been with us for about two (2) years. They are both wonderful, giving, loving women I would be lost without and my grandmother would no longer be with me if not for their service.

I have always been the biggest kid in the room, even in a room full of toddlers. I love to laugh, I love being playful and having fun. I am not a pouter or whiner or woe is me type personality.

Being involved in my grandmother’s life so deeply especially these past several years has made me appreciate my attitude even more. I appreciate memories, movement, expression and day to day just living a little more.

I mentioned memories because we have days she doesn't remember who I am and though it breaks my heart every time, my playful approach allows me to suck back the tears and keep pushing forward till something I say triggers a memory. I am blessed that she has always been a part of my life so she does recall a lot of our time together once her mind cooperates with her.

I bring this up because we as adults sometimes lose sight of our youth. We get wrapped up in daily life. Poor life choices, negative work conditions, bad relationships, poor health situations and so forth. We tend to forget to look at the positives that are happening right around us.

Life is about choices. When something isn't working change it. We don’t have to suffer, in anything we do. What we do have to do is use our options.

My grandmother’s life is a lesson to me because I don’t want to get older and not have been enjoying life. I don’t want to get older and wonder how come I didn't do. I don’t want to get older and be waiting to die.

On behave of my grandmother I will continue to laugh louder, eat smarter, play more often, love deeper and live stronger and with more passion. I will continue to appreciate the fact I always have a choice. I always have an option. I choose to be living a life that is stress free. I choose to be FOREVER YOUNG.

Btw…when I left I left her in her lounge chair laughing :)


8 comments:

  1. What a sweet, beautiful post. Life is so much about our choice to be happy. One of my biggest goals in life is to be able to look back in the end with no regrets.
    Angela @ Time with A & N

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    1. Angela, thank you for visit and comments! No regrets living, is an awesome goal. Hope to see you here again :)

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  2. God will bless you. I was my grandmother's caretaker until she transitioned in 2009 at the age of 98. It was a beautiful experience because she took care of me coming into the world and I took care of her leaving it. Stay blessed and have a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Antionette, Thank you for support and comments. Yes I do try to appreciate our time together as tough as some do get. Great way to put it in your view she was here as I came in and I will be there as she goes out, thank you :)

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  3. You have such an amazing attitude, Mari! I really need you to rub off on me :). I'm so sorry for all you and your grandmother are dealing with. I'm sure those days she doesn't remember you are so difficult, but it sounds like you deal with it the best someone would be able to. Keep that beautiful, bright, positive spirit!!

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    1. Thank you Candace xo!. Appreciate the support I do my best I credit Yoga and Meditation for my calmness lol :) Yes it is difficult, I wouldn't wish it on anyone really, its very sad.

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  4. So, so true. With 3yo and 2yo daughters, I feel like I get to stay young most days. But the realities of life will drag on you. And then I read your post, which is a great reminder to by young and joyful, no matter how old you are, and realize that there's no good reason to ever let go of that! Thanks for sharing on Turn It Up Tuesday - you're my selection for favorite this week!

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    1. Melissa thank you for visit and comment. Never an age limit to feeling youthful :)

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