Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Your own worst Enemy

I found myself yelling at the television this morning as I was getting ready for work. My daughter and I just couldn't get the words out of our mouths fast enough. Yet another segment, depicting catty women and mothers on Good Morning America. This time the evil “mother” was Gisele Bundchen .

It always ignites something in me to see women be so hateful, bitter and mean to one another. Catty women, the one’s with the claws (their mouths) ready to tear into you every chance they can get. The ones that feel that expressing themselves in a negative fashion is the way to go and the words that come out of their mouths should be the rules that all women, all mother’s must follow.

We live in a World, let me repeat that again, we live in a World where we get paid less than our male counterparts, where freedom due to our gender sometimes is nonexistent, where our rights can be disregarded, where in certain places what we can do with our bodies is dictated, where we are told we are not complete without a man, where our lives at times have less value.

Being aware of all these obstacles, why on earth would we be so harsh amongst ourselves?

Self-esteem, as my daughter’s friend once commented in a discussion they were having, is esteem of the self, how is it that I am affecting yours?

How are the following women affecting me? Maria Yang, Lee-Ann Ellison, Caroline Berg Eriksen and Gisele Bundchen?

Why because you don’t look as they do, feel as they do and express yourself as they do you find it wrong or obnoxious? Why is it wrong of them to share as they wish what they feel is a grand accomplishment?

You want abs like these women, legs, hair or boobies? Then go and do what they do. Work your butt off and you will achieve the same. Have the life style they have and you will be just as happy and proud. If you are not willing to put in the time, effort or money…then please just try and retract your claws because that right there already makes you unattractive.

I am not a size Two, I don’t work out at a gym, I don’t diet and I eat a pint of ice cream any darn time I feel like it. What I do practice is Yoga, Pilates and Meditation. I also walk around my neighborhood park at least twice a week for about an hour and a half. I don’t eat red meat very often, I don’t eat take out or fast foods very often either. I believe in moderation and I am beautiful inside and out. How do I know that? Because I am confident in my own skin and I love who I am. I don’t strive to be anyone other than Mari Corona.

Women look within yourselves for a role model first. No one is going to make you feel anything you already don’t feel yourself. These women didn't wake up and say “oh let me hurt so and so today”, they woke up and said “wow I look good, period”. Work on why you felt such negativity when you saw those women because trust me when I say the problem isn't them, it’s You.


  1. I completely agree with you! Great post. I find myself looking to others for edification or encouragement. I need to look to myself. Found you from bloggy moms :)

    1. Debbie, thanks for visit and comment. You can only be the best you, Debbie. So go look in the mirror and say hello to your new beautiful friend, You :) hope to see you here again soon xo

  2. Amen Mari! We should be who we are. Not get caught up in others. That advice is sometimes easier said than done for me, but it is something I'm really working on right now. I will not be that little skinny wrinkle free 25 year old again :). However, that also means I don't have to be that scared, self-conscious, stressed out 25 year old again either!

    1. Yes yes Candace, exactly xoxo thanks for visit as always :)

  3. Great post and so true - we allow ourselves to be hurt by others and should look at ourselves as our own role models. Thanks for sharing on Turn it up Tuesday!

    1. Crochet, thanks for visit and comment. Hope to see you here again soon :)

  4. It's really sad how much we look to random others to be our role models, Mari. In this day, just because they are on television, really doesn't mean anything. No particular skill or talent is needed. And a lot of those who are very small size often don't eat... and some of them don't particularly like to. Thanks for linking up with Turn it Up Tuesday!


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